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Male and female relationships have become much mor...

2009-11-20T13:28:46.407-08:00

Male and female relationships have become much more complex than they need to be. Because of changes in our society, simple niceties are no longer welcomed or allowed. I hope we can learn to be civil again without people thinking we have an ulterior motive.

I agree that it is a sad loss in our culture. I wo...

2009-11-19T18:26:05.264-08:00

I agree that it is a sad loss in our culture. I would attribute some of the blame to people who used such compliments for ill intentions. But those few drown out the sincere ones.
Larry, that was really excellent advice. Passing the lesson on to your boys is critical.
Jessica, when someone tells me I look beautiful and I'm uncertain of his intention, I assertively define his comment

My neighbor told me I looked beautiful. I haven't ...

2009-11-19T17:45:51.037-08:00

My neighbor told me I looked beautiful. I haven't made eye contact with him since.

I agree with both you and Miss R. It's sad that yo...

2009-11-19T16:56:44.934-08:00

I agree with both you and Miss R. It's sad that you can not express yourself in our world today without compliments or kindnesses being misinterpreted. It's almost as though you need to offer a disclaimer before saying anything which does make it less likely that you will.

I had never thought of it that way but I can say f...

2009-11-19T16:53:15.155-08:00

I had never thought of it that way but I can say from experience that we can change! I tell my wife every day how beautiful she is and how much I treasure her as my wife and my best friend.

I have also learned that it is so very easy to allow ourselves to be caught up on the business of life and fulfilling our responsibilities that we forget to stop and "smell the perfume"

Aaaaahhhhh.....and here I was, after reading your ...

2009-11-19T16:28:22.728-08:00

Aaaaahhhhh.....and here I was, after reading your title and your first sentence, preparing to write an angry response. Glad I waited to respond until the end of your post. What can I say? It's such a shame that common kindness has been replaced by political correctness and now, even the most generous of compliments are silenced. Sometimes I like to imagine a world where the only